Patient's question:
I've been in a cold war with my husband for 10 days now. I must have been a bit too harsh in my response this time. In the past, when we had conflicts, he would always comfort me. But this time, he never paid any attention to me. Also, in the past, if I ate something cold or didn't take care of myself, he would scold me, saying, "You're like this and you still eat?" He never stood up for me or cared about these things. He's also very quiet, barely speaking more than five words a day. In terms of our intimate life, he only lasts a few minutes, and I don't feel much either. He never helps with the children's upbringing, household chores, or anything at all. It's as if it has nothing to do with him. We never communicate with each other, and when we argue, he just stays silent and doesn't want to talk. When I say others communicate to solve problems, he says it's a waste of time to talk to me. Overall, I feel he's not as good to me as he used to be. I can't let go of the children, and I guess I've grown accustomed to him being gone. It doesn't matter when he comes back or when he leaves anymore. I can't let go of the children. What should I do? He also can't make enough money, always running short on cash. When I get sick, there's no money for me to see a doctor. He works in interior decoration and only earns 20,000 to 30,000 a year. For this reason, I've argued with him many times, asking him to switch to training. But he refuses. I see no future at all.Doctor's answer:
Based on the situation you described, it seems that the main issue in your case is poor communication. For example, there is a lack of effective communication between you, the sexual life is not very harmonious, and there is no joint effort in raising children and doing household chores. Therefore, the two of you should communicate with each other frequently on a daily basis, discuss matters together, and also consider things from different perspectives. Marriage requires management, and it is also important to have mutual recognition, respect, and tenderness.