Patient's question:
Question (Only I witnessed it) I've been in a cold war with my husband for 10 days. 2018-11-09 12:30:42 3 people explaining the problem Detailed description: I've been in a cold war with my husband for 10 days. I was a bit too harsh in my response this time. In the past, when we were in a cold war, he would comfort me. But this time, he never paid attention to me. Also, in the past, if I ate cold things, he would say, "You're not well, why are you eating that?" and stand by it. He's a very quiet person, barely speaking more than five words a day. In terms of intimacy, he only lasts a few minutes, and I don't feel much either. He never helps with the children's upbringing, household chores, or anything at all. It's as if it has nothing to do with him. We never communicate with each other, and when we argue, he just stays silent and doesn't want to talk. I say that others communicate to solve problems, and he says it's a waste of time to communicate with me. Overall, I feel he's not as good to me as before. I can't let go of the children, and I guess I've gotten used to him being gone. It doesn't matter when he comes back or when he leaves. I just can't let go of the children. What should I do then? He also doesn't earn enough money, always running short of cash. When I get sick, there's no money to see a doctor. He does interior decoration, earning only 20,000 to 30,000 a year for it. For this reason, I've argued with him many times. I told him to switch to training, but he refuses. I don't see any future at all.Doctor's answer:
Based on your description, it seems that the main issue in this situation is with the male party. His behavior is primarily driven by a lazy mindset and a lack of ambition. In fact, a small portion of men often develop this mindset after getting married. Therefore, it's important to find ways to help him change this mindset rather than considering a breakup or other options. If he's reluctant to communicate with you, you should take the initiative to engage with him more. Sometimes, if you say something that touches on his sensitive areas, he might be more willing to communicate with you.