Patient's question:
Since then, my husband has lost interest in sex and even sleeps in a separate bed from me. Moreover, every time we have sex, it's rushed and reluctant. Although he pretends to be interested, I can still sense his reluctance. What should I do?Medical history and effectiveness of treatment: No treatment has been sought. He denies having a medical condition.
Type of help desired: Is he suffering from a psychological disorder, or is he having an affair? I'm really struggling, and I'm even considering divorce.
Doctor's answer:
Hello, your condition is considered to be frigidity. Generally, people believe that it involves a lack of interest in sexual activity, which is also known as hypoactive sexual desire. Some individuals may not actively avoid sexual intercourse, but they are unable to respond appropriately during intercourse, lack pleasure, or experience pleasure that is not obvious or satisfying.1. The most effective method for treating frigidity is sex therapy. Since sex is a human instinct, the purpose of sex therapy is to liberate the innate sexual instinct that women are born with and to completely cure hypoactive sexual desire.
2. Hypoactive sexual function in women is mostly caused by psychological factors. During sexual activity, women should adopt a proactive attitude and change their passive role in the bedroom. Therefore, while treating women's hypoactive sexual function, men should also actively cooperate. Men's rough, violent, or domineering actions during sex can cause pain to women, which is also a major reason for female frigidity. Treating women with tenderness and gentleness, and paying attention to their reactions, can help improve their fear and aversion to sex.