Dealing with things: Open up a new situation with the way of square and round

Author: Fang Jun
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Publish Date: 2008-07-01
Features: Those who excel in handling matters all have a deep understanding and application of the principle of "square and round." "Square" represents principles and the concept of right and wrong, while "round" signifies mature experience and flexible methods. Only by organically combining the two can one become more efficient and achieve results more easily in the process of handling matters. Everyone handles matters every day—big or small, public or private—but not everyone knows how to handle them well. The level of one's ability in handling matters greatly affects one's living conditions, from career development to the smoothness of daily life, all of which often need to be achieved through handling matters. By carefully observing the people around us, we can say that those who have smooth careers and families generally possess a higher level of awareness and ability in handling matters. Their success can be largely attributed to three aspects:
First, being good at building relationships: A master in handling matters must first be a master at building relationships. People with good relationships are trusted and respected, and others are willing to help them. Therefore, relationships are the prelude to handling matters, and it is necessary to establish good relationships with people from all walks of life in daily interactions, rather than waiting to seek help at the last minute. Gathering popularity, connecting with people, and building relationships are the keys to becoming a master in handling matters.
Second, being good at asking for help: Handling matters always involves specific objects, generally with the other party in an active position and oneself in a passive one. Therefore, in popular terms, asking for help is often referred to as "seeking assistance." Indeed, handling matters inevitably involves asking for help, and masters in handling matters always excel in doing so appropriately.
Third, being skilled in techniques: Handling matters always involves methods, and the effectiveness of the results depends on the methods used. We often suffer from putting in tremendous effort on a matter only to achieve nothing and being trapped in it, unable to escape. At such times, a little thought or a change in perspective can lead to entirely different outcomes. In fact, in a nutshell, those who excel in handling matters all have a deep understanding and application of the principle of "square and round." "Square" represents principles and the concept of right and wrong, while "round" signifies mature experience and flexible methods. Only by organically combining the two can one become more efficient and achieve results more easily in the process of handling matters. A successful expert once said: "In this world, good things are not always reserved for the lucky ones, but for those who understand the principle of 'square and round' and are skilled in handling matters." Indeed, it is not difficult to accomplish a task, but the challenge lies in always handling all kinds of tasks well—this is the magic of the "square and round" method of handling matters.