Annoyances in Marriage

Author: Li Zixun
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Publish Date: 2006-06-01
Features: Li Zixun, a special guest marriage counseling expert on CCTV's "Psychological Interview," deciphers the psychological secrets of marriage. Offering a different perspective, this book provides practical psychological guidance for marital life. Through the unique lens of a psychologist, it helps you open windows into families, allowing you to see family dynamics from another angle, including causal interactions and conflicts. Unconsciously, you will be guided into a fresh and wonderful realm, where you can face your inner self and everything around you with ease, openness, and tranquility. Marriage, like love, is something that no one can fully explain. This book attempts to interpret marriage from the perspectives of both men and women. The book uses the names "Dongdong" and "Xixi" to refer to the marital couple, symbolizing the scenarios of marital relationships. The author adopts a dual identity—one from a male perspective and one from a female perspective—to interpret the same things differently, thereby enriching readers' diverse understanding of marriage. Marriage is something that no one can fully explain, and the ideas presented in this book are just one of many marital concepts—not all-inclusive, nor the "best." The book uses "Dongdong" and "Xixi" as the names of the marital couple, avoiding the need to spend too much effort naming the characters. Who they are ultimately doesn't matter; what matters is the marital relationship scenarios they represent. Readers are encouraged to remind themselves not to judge the protagonists in the story based on continuous impressions. The author also embodies the couple Zizimuming, referred to as Mr. Zimu and Mrs. Zimu, or simply the Zimu couple. Writing this book often required the author to split into two identities—one with a male perspective and one with a female perspective—to interpret the same things differently, thereby broadening readers' understanding of marriage's diversity. The letter materials and pointed questions in the book were originally published in the Shenzhen edition of "Girlfriend" under the column "Brother and Sister." When compiling the book, to respect the magazine's efforts, the original stories were heavily rewritten into a more readable and colloquial prose poem style. The original editor of the magazine, Yi Hong, has been a long-time friend of mine, and our collaboration has spanned from 1995 to the present. I would like to express my gratitude to her and to the magazine "Girlfriend"! Online friends once asked me, "Why do you always write for women?" My answer was, "Because only women's magazines ask me to write." So, I apologize to the male readers for this. The male perspective in the book is also a very gentle male viewpoint, which may not satisfy some male readers. I apologize for this!