5-12 Years Old Children's Education Guide

Author: (Australia) Green
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Publish Date: 2002-01-01
Features: An 8-year-old girl might suddenly get an idea and clean her bedroom spotlessly. At this point, let's check her work, praise her enthusiastically, and give her some special rewards. With this kind of compensation, tomorrow's bedroom will be cleaned again (I hear you grumbling, it's pure nonsense). There is an important principle in guiding our children's behavior: If a child's behavior is rewarded, it is likely to be repeated; whereas unrewarded behavior will disappear. This fundamental principle can guide us as parents to develop our children's strengths and overcome their weaknesses. It can be said that the reward principle is absolutely a wise move, and in this way, children's behavior will become increasingly well-mannered.
Types of Rewards:
· Soft Rewards (enthusiasm, encouragement, attention, verbal praise, body language encouragement)
· Hard Rewards (quality time, special treatment, treats, money)
· Accumulative Rewards (star charts, token systems, scoring systems)
Soft Rewards
Recently, I had dinner at a top-tier restaurant in Sydney. The food and service were excellent, so I called over the manager to specifically praise the chef and the waiter. Later, the waiter, with an expectant smile, walked up to me and handed me the bill. My wife suggested giving a generous tip. I seized this opportunity to explain the difference between soft and hard rewards to her. She listened politely and then gave a simple summary: "Very interesting theory, but you're a bit stingy." In that situation, my wife might have been right, but never underestimate the power of soft rewards, clever compensation, especially when dealing with young children. Moreover, this type of reward is extremely important for children under 5, and its impact can be profound, even lasting a lifetime.
Capturing Good Behavior
If people want to continue doing good deeds, their good deeds need to be noticed and reinforced. For parents, what is unacceptable is only seeing the bad side of their child's behavior and showing disappointment and frustration: "Don't bother your sister!" "Don't provoke that dog!" "You're so annoying in the store!" "You're such an idiot!" "You're so rude!" Confident and positive parents, on the other hand, turn this situation around, speak kindly, and focus on praising the good side: "You two are playing so well, I'm really happy!" "Oh, you were so helpful in the supermarket!" "Did the cleaner come?" "It's great that we can talk like this!"
The Power of Body Language
Every day, more than 100 people greet me with "How are you?" Those who greet me are not all truly interested in my health, happiness, or emotions. Their greetings are like pre-recorded tapes—empty and robotic. Sometimes the words themselves are meaningless, but we can sense the genuine care and interest through a person's demeanor and body language. Children can tell whether we are happy through our tone of voice, our expressions, our eye contact, and our private whispers. And this clever...