The Best Women's Bedside Book - Daily Must-Read Advice

Author: Zhao Jing
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Publish Date: 2006-11-01
Features: Be a Smart "Silly Woman" in Social Situations
As the saying goes, "Smart girls are loved by everyone!" But prove shows that overly smart women are not lovable. Although some women are beautiful in appearance, if they are too sharp and speak too bluntly, others will not be able to tolerate them. Some women, when expressing an opinion or refuting someone else's view, always speak eloquently and directly, regardless of whether others can handle it or not. Sometimes, it's just because others have different opinions on something, or someone makes a knowledge-based or logical mistake during a conversation, and she points it out mercilessly. Especially in crowded settings, when others are in the midst of a lively discussion, she suddenly catches them off guard with a hard-to-answer point. Not only does this spoil the mood, but it also makes them feel embarrassed. Women like this make people feel uncomfortable. No matter how beautiful their face is, after seeing it too many times, it just becomes ordinary. And an overly sharp personality can only make people keep their distance. In fact, many times, you don't need to be this smart. It's not a business negotiation, nor is it a matter of principle—why be so forceful? Even if you have a lot of knowledge, you don't need to show it off every day. Keep it to yourself; if you have musk, it will naturally smell.
Not knowing who Picasso was from which country isn't a big deal either—why force someone into a difficult position? Girls who are both highly educated, smart, and beautiful should have no trouble finding a husband. However, their high intelligence often allows them to see through men's sweet words and expose their clumsy tricks, naturally making it hard for them to find love. Smart women see everything and can strike at the core of any issue, leaving no room for escape. Smart women are too threatening and lack security, so men are afraid of them. Perhaps the most popular are "silly" little beauties. They are always a little "dumber" than men. They can understand what men are saying but pretend to know no more and see no further. Remember, overly smart women are not lovable. Hide your sharp edges and be a smart woman who knows how to pretend to be silly. Smart women know when to be smart and when to pretend to be silly. But how should they do it? "Pretending to be silly" is an art. It doesn't mean always "lying" if you do so, as this would make the person even sillier than a fool. It's about making timely "silly" actions for certain needs. "Pretending to be silly" is an art with depth and great skill. To use this technique appropriately in life, you must cultivate your insight and discernment in small details. Only when you stand at a certain height to observe people and events can you grasp opportunities from the bigger picture and find breakthroughs in development. When you can thoroughly analyze the causes and effects of a matter and make decisive decisions, using "pretending to be silly" can not only provide a perfect solution but also add wonderful flavors to your own and others' lives! Know yourself and others—pretending to be silly isn't silly at all!
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