Women's Encyclopedia (Illustrated Collector's Edition)

Author: Xiang Changhua
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Publish Date: 2006-06-01
Features: Exploring the Mysteries of Sexual Life
Seeing this title, you might be shocked—openly talking about sex, how could that be allowed! Don’t panic! Why can’t sex be openly discussed? The only issue is the angle from which we approach it. As long as we don’t discuss it inappropriately, and as long as our perspective is about pursuing sexual health and marital happiness, why can’t sex be openly talked about? Openly discussing sex is not our innovation. For many years, many social workers (including conservative religious groups) have already openly discussed it. Why should sex be openly discussed? The answer is simple—because sexual issues have long existed, and avoiding them doesn’t solve the problem. Experts and scholars consistently point out: Sex and gender behavior are not just about procreation; they are a powerful force that unites men and women. Of course, the power that unites a couple is multifaceted, but “sex” is one of the most important and powerful. Therefore, regarding sexual behavior, we should adopt three correct attitudes: . First, if we don’t properly utilize sexual behavior, it can easily lead to social problems, violence, ethical and moral decline, and other issues. Second, properly utilizing sexual behavior can promote marital harmony; many happy families are built on a strong sexual foundation. Third, many people avoid sexual issues, but sexual issues are not special problems, and they cannot be solved by avoidance. Only by understanding them and properly utilizing them can we find the best solution. So, starting from here, let’s explore it together. Sex and Marriage
The sexual relationship in marriage is originally very simple—it is an action where two lovers continuously prove their love and commitment to each other after forming a bond. As long as the primal motivation of mutual need and love is sufficient, this expression of love will never be lacking. Unfortunately, most couples, though full of passion in the early days of marriage, inevitably enter a low point of mutual exhaustion over time. The reason for this low point is the neglect of both partners—in the beginning of marriage, they both have fresh and exciting feelings for each other, and intense passion is inevitable. But passion inevitably cools. If one cannot continue to please, respect, and accommodate the other, then once the novelty wears off, the marital relationship will inevitably decline like a river flowing downhill. A lawyer in the United States who handles divorce cases has statistics showing that 90% of divorces are due to failures in sexual life. He believes that if a couple’s sexual life is as strong as glue, daily conflicts can be easily resolved; conversely, couples who are not harmonious in sex may fight over trivial matters. On the surface, the reasons for divorce are disagreements, but in reality, sexual incompatibility is the spark that leads to marital breakdown. So, who is the first to experience exhaustion in post-marital sexual life? Who can reignite the dying embers of love? Most people would think it’s the husband, but the reality is exactly the opposite. P2-3