Social Skills and Self-Confidence Training

Author: Dai Wanglei
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Publish Date: 2006-10-01
Features: Dear friend, when you pick up this book and open the pages, I would like to tell you that this book is not written for those who lack the determination to succeed or the willingness to invest time and effort for it. This book might be written for you: because reading this book itself proves that you want to live a more fulfilling life than now, experience greater happiness, and have already begun to prepare to bid farewell to self-doubt and embrace confidence. In our lives, indeed, many people suffer from distress and confusion due to their self-doubt. Yes, self-doubt is the greatest stumbling block to achieving ideals and wishes, one of the sources of your misfortune, and the noose that restricts your creativity. Over the years, you must have tried many methods to overcome it, but it always backfires, leading you into another cycle of self-doubt. This is not your fault; rather, it is because you have not yet found the secret formula to conquer self-doubt, or you have found it but lack guidance, resulting in missed opportunities. Many people have imagined that they could do many things. When asked why they haven’t started yet, whether due to a lack of opportunity or waiting for a better one, they reply: "It’s just that I’m too self-doubting now. If I were confident, I would definitely do it and do it well." This answer is good, but it overlooks one point: confidence does not arise out of thin air; it emerges alongside action. In other words, when a certain action occurs, confidence is already involved, creating a mutual feedback loop until success is achieved. Why mention this? It is simply to tell everyone that confidence is far more than a theoretical learning—it must be honed through practice. This book will help you set new goals and form new perspectives on your present and future. As the title suggests, it aims to accompany confidence throughout your life. It contains many life insights that transcend psychology, with its practicality and step-by-step approach ensuring that participants receive a fulfilling rather than hollow training. However, the ideas in this book cannot be understood or absorbed simply by skimming through them or reading it cover to cover hastily. As some people have experienced, you should read it slowly, carefully, and chapter by chapter, making notes, marking highlights, and underlining important words, sentences, or paragraphs that apply to you, and discussing them with friends. Only after fully understanding every concept in the previous chapter should you move on to the next one. Treat this book as a workbook. I hope that in the near future, you will have become a new person—a confident person—a person who finds your past self-doubt laughable.