Appreciating Children's 55 Details

Author: Cui Huafang (Compiler)
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Publish Date: 2006-05-01
Features: The entire secret to educating children lies in believing in them and liberating them. Believing in children and liberating them must first begin with appreciating them. — Tao Xingzhi
It is not good children who need appreciation, but appreciation that makes them become better; it is not bad children who need complaints, but complaints that make them become worse. — Zhou Hong
A child's growth cannot be separated from tolerance and appreciation, while harsh criticism can extinguish genius. — Karl Witte
"Appreciation" is a subject, an art, and a skill. A child's tiny efforts, gradual progress, subtle strengths, and unnoticed talents all require our sufficient attention and recognition. Capturing every opportunity to appreciate children and expressing your appreciation for them with appropriate language and methods is a must for every parent who hopes their child succeeds. Appreciating children should be reflected in your words and actions, and even more so in every scene and detail of parent-child education.
Appreciation education is an education of life, an education of love, an education full of humanity and vitality. The fundamental need in human nature is the desire to be appreciated, respected, understood, and loved. Every person, every child, comes into this world to be appreciated.
The renowned Chinese educator Tao Xingzhi once said, "The entire secret to educating children lies in believing in them and liberating them. Believing in children and liberating them must first begin with appreciating them."
The characteristic of appreciation education is to focus on a child's strengths and advantages, allowing them to awaken in the mindset of "I am a good child"; whereas the characteristic of complaint education is to focus on a child's weaknesses and shortcomings, leading them to give up on themselves and sink into the belief of "I am a bad child."
The premise of appreciation education is first to have genuine and scientific love for the child. This love encompasses a complex emotional experience of love, understanding, respect, reliance, encouragement, and expectations.
Appreciation is crucial for growing children. Sincerely praising them can help them leverage their strengths and overcome weaknesses; timely encouragement can help them build confidence; respecting and trusting them can help them become self-reliant and strong; and tolerating and understanding them can help them regain their vigor.
Therefore, please give children more appreciation. Even if everyone looks down on them, we should still appreciate, praise, trust, and encourage them with tears in our eyes, striving to uncover their bright spots, take pride in them, help them fully establish confidence, maintain a positive mindset, and let them move forward with confidence and determination, step by step, into the hall of success in life.