Patient's question:
Hello, I am currently not married, but I have just started having sexual intercourse. Previously, I had been masturbating for a long time. Now that I have a girlfriend, I find that I cannot get an erection during intercourse, and when I do, it is very soft.Doctor's answer:
Hello, the situation you are currently facing is a psychological issue, caused by excessive tension. Sex requires mutual understanding and cooperation between two people to be perfect and satisfying. It also requires practice and adjustment. This kind of confusion is not caused by masturbation. On the contrary, for both men and women, masturbation in moderation and with a regular pattern is a normal way to release sexual tension, much like a self-pleasuring sexual experience.If you insist on trying before marriage, as long as the other person is understanding and cooperative, you can go ahead and try without worrying too much about the quality at the beginning. Because neither of you has enough experience yet.
If you are not yet capable of handling potential failures or dissatisfaction at the beginning, I suggest you communicate with your partner. Wait until after marriage, when the relationship is truly stable, before you both jointly experience and improve it.