Patient's question:
From the beginning of university, after starting a relationship with a boyfriend, I discovered the climax of masturbation and began to engage in it. It has been about four years now, and I've noticed that I'm getting better at it. If I don't have sexual activity, I have to resort to masturbation to satisfy my sexual desires—twice every other day, otherwise I feel uncomfortable all over. After masturbation, I feel very relaxed, but I also feel very tired and exhausted. I've realized that this isn't good for my health, and even when I have sex with my boyfriend, I don't reach climax unless I rub my clitoris myself. Is there any way to solve this? Thank you for your response!First question supplement: I also wanted to ask that a few weeks ago, I was diagnosed with bacterial vaginosis. Is it related to...
Doctor's answer:
Hello: Your vaginitis is related to masturbation. The side effects of female masturbation can be divided into three aspects: First, long-term masturbation has led to a dependent habit, where one cannot experience pleasure without this familiar habit; second, long-term reliance on the fingers for genital stimulation has created a sense of unfamiliarity or rejection towards the partner's genitalia, even leading to clinical resistance; third, long-term masturbation has fostered severe psychological biases, where individuals addicted to masturbation fail to recognize that sexual intercourse is a mutual, shared, and collaborative emotional experience between both partners. Instead, they remain confined to their own one-sided satisfaction, resulting in a spiritual and physical separation from their partner and an inability to achieve mutual affection.It is clear that masturbation should not become a habit, especially not a dependent one. Masturbation should only be a temporary form of self-pleasure before marriage, not the normal destination of sexuality. Fortunately, male masturbation is less likely to become a habit after marriage, as the stimulation of the male masturbation environment does not match the intensity of the female vaginal environment. Therefore, most men tend to abandon masturbation and opt for normal genital intercourse after marriage. However, this is not the case for women. Due to the clitoris often being hidden, women may not experience deep pleasure during genital intercourse because the penis fails to provide sufficient stimulation, making it difficult to reach orgasm. In contrast, women with a masturbation habit can achieve climax more easily through manual stimulation. As a result, they continue to rely on masturbation to satisfy themselves, ultimately harming their husband's feelings.
Therefore, women with a history of masturbation, especially those with a dependent habit, must actively reform themselves after marriage and work closely with their husband. Only then can they truly experience the depth of mutual love.