Invest in love

Author: Li Shengyu Canada/Canada
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Publish Date: 2001-01-01
Features: Don't be surprised that most wives have extramarital affairs – it's the truth! Generally speaking, extramarital affairs are defined by sexual relations between men and women, but this isn't entirely accurate. Since men and women differ in physical structure, psychology, and ways of thinking, their definitions of love and extramarital affairs also vary. In a man's world, if he has sexual relations with a woman other than his wife, it's extramarital. If he has relations with another man, that's also extramarital, though the latter is rare in China. In a woman's world, if she has sexual relations with a man or woman other than her husband, that's extramarital. However, if a woman falls in love with a man other than her husband, even if they haven't slept together, it's still a form of extramarital affair. Although men are more concerned about their wives having physical relations with other men than about their wives "making love" to other men in their minds. In a woman's world, her emotions (software) are considered more important and significant than her body (hardware). If a woman, though still married, falls in love with another man through long-term work and daily interactions, even if she's never had sex with him, she is "all about him," deeply in love with him. During most of her sexual encounters with her husband, her mind is filled with fantasies of being intimate with this other man to reach climax. In this case, it can be said: even though this woman hasn't slept with another man, the most significant part of her life – her love (software) – already belongs to a man other than her husband. For this woman, her heart has already gone – that's also a form of extramarital affair! In real life, the longer a woman is married, the more common such situations become. The way to determine if a wife has an extramarital affair is – does she love only her husband? If a woman says, "I don't love my husband, nor do I love any other man." – bullshit! If a woman can go a second without love, then she's definitely not a living body! According to this standard: most wives have extramarital affairs!
What is happiness? Everyone has a different "view" of happiness. Let's look at an example below – on an extremely hot summer day, when you come home and find half a glass of water on the table. Some people might think: damn it! Who drank my half glass of water? Others might think: wow! Great, there's still half a glass of water to drink! The same thing, everyone is in the same situation, but perspectives and attitudes can lead to completely different feelings. Whenever I meet new friends, I always tell them, "I have no special abilities, I can't bring much to everyone, but I can bring you joy." Every time I go to the bathroom for a minute and come back, I always jokingly tell my friends, "Right now, I'm truly happy." Happiness is in every moment, happiness is in the ordinary. Learn to find happiness in the ordinary, and you will be happy.
Women must learn to say "no!" When a friend first came to America,