Perfect Parenting Handbook

Author: Panter
Publisher:
Publish Date: 2006-10-01
Features: Meddlesome ◇ Interrupting ◇ Politeness (Family Edition) ◇ Politeness (Public Places Edition) ◇ Respect
Issue: My child wants to know everything that happens. Whether you're next to him or in the next room, he's listening and asking questions unrelated to the topic.
Thought: Some children are naturally curious about everything, including adult conversations. These children are usually intelligent and eager to learn new things. As a parent, you should encourage this natural curiosity but teach them what is polite.
Solution:
1. Although this behavior may be annoying, parents should control themselves and avoid shouting, "Mind your own business!" A better approach is to look at your child's eyes and say, "This isn't something you need to know. Please find something else to do while we're talking."
2. Talk to your child, praise his inquisitive nature, and explain that sometimes interrupting a conversation is impolite. Provide examples and try to help him understand from his perspective. For example, "If you and your good friend Ray are talking about yesterday's baseball game in your room and planning to play a match, and I walk into your room and start asking many questions, disrupting your conversation, how would you feel?"
3. Make a gesture or expression to indicate "This doesn't concern you." Let your child know that when you make this action, it means he has crossed the line and shouldn't be so focused on the issue. For example, gently pinch his arm or say, "Can you get me a piece of paper?" while winking, which might be enough to make him stop participating in the conversation.
4. Let your child know that if he has questions about a topic, he can ask you more later. He cannot interrupt an adult conversation unless someone asks him.
Unwillingness to Work ◇ Clingy ◇ Separation Anxiety ◇ Pleading with a Pout
Issue: Every morning, when I'm about to leave home for work, my son always clings to me, pouts, and complains. I have to go to work, but his attitude makes me feel terrible. Starting the day this way is simply awful.
Thought: Children can easily stir up parents' conflicting feelings about going to work. If you have mixed feelings about leaving your child to work, your child is likely to amplify those emotions. If you give him enough affection before leaving, going to work won't be a problem. In fact, some parents get along better with their children precisely because of the time they spend apart due to work. Only by regulating your own emotions can you leave home with confidence and a happy mindset to start the day.
Solution:
1. Try to convey your confidence to your child. When leaving home, wave with a smile. Say something more positive when parting, such as, "When I come home, you can show me what you've drawn with the new art supplies. I can't wait to see them. Have a great day!"
2. Shorten the goodbye time. Set a goodbye routine.