Enter the restricted area: Talking about sex between parents and children

Author: Shi Siwei / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2006-01-01
Features: Sex is an important issue that cannot be avoided in a person's growth process. This book explores various aspects of sex that concern adolescents, as well as the difficulties parents should pay attention to in their children's sexual development, based on the psychological characteristics of minors from 0 to 18 years old. By listing these issues, analyzing, synthesizing, and judging them, this book serves as a reference for parents when answering their children's questions. It is also suitable for parents and children to read together, providing correct sexual education and helping them understand how to handle life's challenges. Additionally, it can be used as a reference for teachers when conducting life education. This book opens the "sexual" door left by feudal society with the scientific outlook on development, dividing it into 10 major parts: sexual psychological characteristics, the birth of life, children's sexual awareness, differences between males and females, pediatric urology, adolescent gynecology, sexual awakening during adolescence, prevention of early sexual maturity, enhancing sexual safety, and foreign sexual education. It helps parents and children establish new sexual morals and concepts.
"Mom, I've been in your belly for so long, what did I eat?" Children love to ask questions to the fullest. At this point, you can let your child pull up their shirt and look at their navel. Tell them that there was once a umbilical cord here. While in the belly, you relied on the blood vessels in the umbilical cord to absorb oxygen and various nutrients from the mother's blood, gradually growing bigger. The room in the mother's belly is called the uterus, which is like a water-filled bag. You drank the water inside, which is a dialysate of maternal serum called amniotic fluid, commonly known as "plasma water." When this room can no longer hold you, the mother's uterus begins to contract, relax, contract again, and relax again. After a few hours, the contractions squeeze the amniotic sac, and the amniotic fluid flows out of the vagina, making the vagina moist and lubricated. You lead with your head and slide out of your mother's vagina. If the mother exerts a lot of effort but still cannot push you out of the vagina, the doctor will make an incision on the uterus to remove you. A few minutes later, the mother's uterus contracts again, pushing the umbilical cord out of the body. At this point, you are also breathing calmly, and the doctor uses scissors to cut the umbilical cord near the navel. A few days later, the remaining small piece of umbilical cord will dry up and fall off, and the scar on your navel will heal on its own, never splitting again. The umbilical cord has done its job. You will also have your first bowel movement after birth, which is waste produced by the stomach and intestines absorbing in the womb. It is black and called "meconium." From then on, you will rely on your mother's milk for nourishment.
"Did I cry as I squeezed out of your belly to come into the world?" Children often see newborns less than a month old crying in their mothers' arms, and the crying stops when they are breastfed. The mother's answer to this question is that while in the belly, you did not breathe through your nose, mouth, and lungs like now. You did not get oxygen from the air but from the blood through the placenta. When you were born, you might have just squeezed out of your mother's belly, and the light was too bright, or it was too cold outside. Although you could open and close your eyes after 7 months in the womb, you couldn't adapt at first and cried. However, some children don't cry and even laugh. Bai Jingqi, the protagonist of the TV series Da Zhai Men, was born laughing. Now, doctors no longer lift children by their heels and turn them upside down, nor do they slap them to prevent them from crying when they come into the world. Instead, they place them flat on their mother's chest, allowing the mother to hold them, so they can take a deep breath, switch from umbilical cord breathing to lung breathing, and cry out with a "wow" as they enter the world.
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