Personality Recognition through Color Eyes - FPA Personality Color Code Interpretation

Author: Le Jia / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2006-08-01
Features: This book uses the unique FPA personality color code tool to categorize human personalities into "Red, Yellow, Blue, and Green." For example,, , are classified into the blue series, is placed in the green series, and is categorized into the red series. Author Le Jia divides personalities by color, explaining the complexity of human nature in an easy-to-understand way through colors, and thereby reflecting people's inner motivations, attempting to spark an interesting "color revolution." This is a remarkable book. You can truly understand your desires, behaviors, and their roots in love interactions, and begin to realize how your personality limitations unintentionally sabotage your intimate relationships. You will also learn to view others more objectively, understanding that what you once thought were "unforgivable" behaviors are actually natural and simple to them, simply because they are "different" from you. The small "?" marks in your heart will be straightened out, turning into emotions filled with passion! This is a practical guidebook. Readers can quickly discern the "love colors" of their romantic partners. Simply put, red is the passionate lover, who falls in love with intensity, passion, and romance but is prone to being fickle; blue is the sensitive and refined lover, with a rich inner world but a detached and aloof exterior. Once in love, they are caring and considerate; yellow is the decisive and strong lover, highly responsible, but sometimes neglectful of details, yet thoughtful about family matters; green is the gentle and compassionate lover, a patient and loving listener and supporter, who would rather suppress their own feelings than hurt their loved ones.
Five minutes to understand "Red, Blue, Yellow, and Green"
If you only have five minutes and hope to grasp the full essence of red, blue, yellow, and green, please don’t proceed—it’s impossible. If you only have five minutes and wish to learn the basic concepts of the four personality colors, please stay, and read the "Squeezing Toothpaste" story. Over the past five years, whenever I gave a talk, there was always an opening, and whenever there was an opening, there was always the "Toothpaste Battle." Among thousands of cases, only the "Toothpaste Battle" stood out. The following conflict version draws its basic elements from the daily "toothpaste battles" between my parents when I was young, then tested and validated by countless families. It was the seed of my early education in understanding personality conflicts between people. Let’s start with a question. Do you tend to "squeeze hard" from the middle of the tube, or "roll gently" from the bottom up to maintain the toothpaste’s shape? It seems my mother fits the former—now I know that’s red. Overall, red tends to have a more casual lifestyle, pursuing freedom, spontaneity, and ease without paying attention to trivial details. My father, on the other hand, fits the latter—now I know that’s blue. Overall, blue tends to have a more disciplined lifestyle, valuing order, rules, and organization, and being meticulous and perfectionist in dealing with any issue, no matter how small. Every time my mother finishes brushing her teeth, she throws everything away and rushes off. Clearly, my father is extremely unhappy with the red’s disorder and mess, so he takes care of the aftermath—straightening the toothpaste, drying the sink, and neatly arranging the toothbrushes upright in a row. The sensitive father always hopes to silently suggest that his mother correct this terrible habit. When he realizes there’s no improvement after several days, he raises the seriousness of the issue, leaving my mother shocked at his overreaction. Over the years, my mother has tried her best to follow her father’s strict standards, even attempting a brushing process stricter than six Sigma. However, no matter how hard my mother tries, in the eyes of the blue father, it’s all expected and unworthy of praise. Under the father’s unwavering belief that "people can only improve through constant demands and criticism," my mother fights back with all her might. Thus, the two are evenly matched, locked in a decades-long struggle. They keep trying to change each other—the father hopes to turn his mother into someone as disciplined and perfection-oriented as himself, while the mother believes the father lacks joy in life and constantly tries to counter him, hoping he’ll be more like her—someone who seeks change and fun.
What’s interesting is that many families have different toothpaste squeezing habits but don’t experience a "toothpaste battle" like my parents did. This brings us to the possibility of a second color in each person’s personality. Although my father’s blue and mother’s red differ greatly in attitude and behavior, their conflicts escalate entirely due to their second color, "yellow." When I closely observe how my blue-green friends handle the same problem, I notice they almost always just squeeze out a new tube of toothpaste and go their separate ways, indifferent to each other. I dislike your messy way (blue trait), but I don’t bother changing you (green trait), yet I would never force you to change like my blue-yellow father would. Similarly, if my mother had a green trait, she wouldn’t easily get into conflicts with others. In fact, the red-yellow mother also couldn’t tolerate her husband trying to change her, and their shared "yellow" made them both believe they were right, intensifying their conflicts. The accumulation of countless small issues eventually led to the collapse of their marriage. Such marriages are common in the world. My parents have yelled "divorce" countless times, immersing my childhood in a battle filled with tension. Fortunately, these experiences have become valuable material in my mind.
Thankfully, they stayed together for their entire lives, but this has left me with the of missing out on the hardships and struggles of growing up in a single-parent family. I know not everyone can bridge the vast chasm of mutual understanding, because we often fail to embrace the freedom and joy of red, the perfection and caution of blue, the decisiveness and determination of yellow, or the harmony and tolerance of green; yet we focus on the negative, glaring at red’s chaos, blue’s rigidity, yellow’s dominance, and green’s weakness. Over the past decade, through training, speeches, coaching, and observation, I’ve witnessed countless life tragedies and regrets. This book serves as a convenient, easy-to-understand, and straightforward written course. After reading it, if you can truly grasp the truth that "the moon has its phases, and people have their colors," that will suffice! So, since you can’t change others, learn to accept and understand them with an open heart. P4-5