Mechanics of Adaptation - The Wisdom Book of Random Adaptation

Author: Gao Ruying / Country: Mainland China
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Publish Date: 2006-07-01
Features: "My boss is a woman"—Is this a reason for you to quit? In real-world work, many job seekers resign because they can't tolerate their female bosses' personalities. But is it really the "female" boss that people dislike, or is it gender discrimination? After investigation, it turns out that most subordinates can't stand isn't the "female" boss, but the "emotional" boss. "Emotional" is a major taboo for being a boss. When you're in a bad mood, your work efficiency and judgment will suffer greatly, and you'll unconsciously frown, making those around you feel uncomfortable. As your subordinate, of course, you'd want to avoid contact. If your low mood only happens occasionally, there's still room for improvement. But if it happens often, your subordinates will gradually distance themselves from you. The saying "deserted by friends and relatives" often starts from this. You must understand that will make you lose control. Although you know it's unwise and inappropriate to criticize subordinates in public, if you happen to be in a bad mood and your subordinates are foolish, it's easy to make mistakes. The subordinates who are publicly humiliated won't change, but the people around you will secretly despise you. There are many conditions for being a boss who is well-liked by subordinates, but the first step is to always maintain a happy and balanced mood. Emotions are contagious; the more positive and healthy your emotions, the more you can motivate your subordinates. Some people think that emotional instability is innate and unchangeable, but that's not true. First, you need to understand if you are an emotional person, and then you can face the problem head-on. You need to learn to change your emotions. So, how can you change your emotions? Through self-hypnosis, you can transform a gloomy mood into positive and cheerful emotions. A friend of mine who works as an insurance broker always maintains a cheerful smile and a determined spirit, whether it's sunny or rainy, whether she's accepted or rejected, or whether her business is good or bad. The secret to her success is that every morning when she leaves home, she faces the mirror and praises herself, such as: "I'm great today!" "I guarantee you'll succeed today!" "I have good luck today!" and so on, before energetically going out. On particularly tiring days, she even dresses up more deliberately and doesn't forget to remove unnecessary items from her briefcase before leaving to reduce the burden. This kind of work attitude helped her quickly advance from an ordinary agent to a supervisor. This shows the great power of self-hypnosis. A successful supervisor is often also someone who is good at self-control. Life has ups and downs, but we shouldn't let the surrounding environment control us. If you feel mentally drained as soon as you leave home in the morning, that's a very dangerous sign: you might be labeled as an "emotional boss" by your subordinates at any moment. You should immediately turn back home, hypnotize yourself in front of the mirror to shift your mood, and then take a more ordinary means of transportation to work, such as taking the subway if you usually drive. The goal is to make yourself feel comfortable and reduce stress. When you return to the office, if you still can't shake off your low mood, it's best to temporarily avoid supervisory tasks, because at this time, you may not be able to spread healthy emotions and messages. You should choose some tasks that can be handled alone, such as paperwork, and let the satisfaction of completing the work push you to regain a healthy mood. P3-4