Cultivating Elite National Parenting School Model Textbook - (Silver Edition)

Author: Du Xiaoyi
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Publish Date: 2006-06-01
Features: 2, Believe every child is a genius, encourage children often, and never say to them, "You can't do it." Children can only gain happiness from success, which may motivate them to keep trying. Once they lose the desire for success, they may become complacent and fall behind. Parents' encouragement can help children experience the joy of success, thus awakening their potential for positive progress.
Dr. Fred, a world-class pediatric neurologist, was considered a slow learner in elementary school. He couldn’t even understand simple problems like "2 + 2 = ?". However, in fifth grade, he met a teacher who changed his life—Miss Murphy. After class one day, Miss Murphy stopped him and asked him to redo an exam paper. When he finished, Miss Murphy excitedly told him, "You got everything right! I knew you could!" From then on, Miss Murphy not only taught him new study methods but also often seized opportunities to say, "You’re smart, my child. I know you’ll have a bright future, and I have full confidence in you."
After that, Fred made up his mind to live up to his teacher’s expectations. Gradually, he discovered his strengths and regained his confidence. At the same time, he also set his own goal: to become a famous doctor. Miss Murphy’s encouragement changed Fred’s life, filling him with confidence and hope for the future. If Miss Murphy had treated Fred like other teachers, who thought he was slow, would Fred have realized his incredible talent or achieved his great dreams? Teachers can change a student’s life through encouragement, and parents can do the same for their children.
However, some parents are very reluctant to praise their children. They haven’t realized how important proper encouragement is for their kids. When a child makes a confident decision, they hear a skeptical tone: "Can you really do it?" This undoubtedly crushes the child’s self-confidence. Therefore, we should never say to our children, "You can’t do it," but rather say, "We believe you can."
When parents scold their children, they often think they’re doing it for their own good, forgetting that children need encouragement. Even if the whole world looks down on their child, we must warmly hug them, admire them, and be proud to have such a child. Only by believing that our children are geniuses can they possibly achieve success.
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