Patient's question:
Every time I am with my lover, during intimacy, I don't feel very excited. At first, there's a bit of excitement, but after about 5 minutes, it fades away. My vagina also doesn't tighten at all; instead, it's very loose. He always says it's not tight, and he helps me by hand each time to get me excited. To satisfy him, I also do my best to cooperate. How should this be diagnosed and treated? Thank you.May everyone have a good mood.
Doctor's answer:
The vagina should be appropriately tight. No matter how many times you have sex, the changes in the vagina will not be significant, only slightly looser after giving birth. There are several reasons why the vagina may feel tight during the first few insertions: 1. Due to both partners lacking sexual experience, the technique may be somewhat awkward, and the vagina may not be sufficiently lubricated; 2. Mainly due to psychological tension in the female, as she may fear that a large penis will cause pain during insertion, leading to a fear-pain-tension cycle. The more she fears pain, the more tense she becomes, and the more the vagina contracts, making insertion very difficult and intensifying the pain, creating a vicious cycle.