Patient's question:
I and my girlfriend are both virgins. Could you please tell us what we should pay attention to individually in order to be more successful? Thank you. Please be specific, the more detailed the better.First question supplement: I use a condom, and he gives me oral sex—is there any harm to either of us? Is there harm if I give her oral sex?
Doctor's answer:
First point: Before starting, engage in more verbal communication and affection is essential. Don’t rush. I understand you’ve been waiting for a long time, but remember, haste makes waste.Second point: Prepare by having a clean and comfortable bed, ensuring the environment won’t be disturbed. A soft, clean small towel (to wipe the woman’s lower body afterward, which will make her feel better). Pay attention to soft lighting—don’t make it too bright, as it might make the woman nervous about being naked for the first time.
Third point: Avoid drinking alcohol or staying up late beforehand, as it may affect your sexual performance.
Fourth point: Don’t forget about contraception. Be a responsible man—using contraception is a way of showing care for your partner. Remember this, please.
Fifth point: Pay attention to hygiene. Take a bath beforehand, change into clean and more attractive underwear, and don’t let your girlfriend see you in a disheveled state after taking off your clothes. Wash your penis thoroughly, and make this a habit moving forward. Many gynecological issues in women are a result of poor hygiene in men. If you love your woman, pay attention to the details.
Sixth point: If the woman isn’t very willing during your first time, don’t force it. Otherwise, her sudden scream might scare you off.
Seventh point: Here’s a small tip. If your partner is a virgin, to make insertion smoother and reduce her pain, have her lie at the edge of the bed with her legs spread wide. You can then stand in front of her and gently insert from top to bottom. This method can make entry easier and minimize the pain of the hymen breaking.