How much love is enough? How to avoid the mistake of overindulgence and raise lovable, responsible, and respectful children

Author: Jeanne A. Ellsley Clark
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Publish Date: 2006-01-01
Features: "This book is amazing and has been very helpful to us. We wanted to give our children the best, but ended up loving them in a way that harms their growth and development. If you are spoiling your children, you will learn how to recognize this issue from this book. You will also discover many positive methods that help prevent the harm caused by giving too much, too quickly, giving them too much power but lacking boundaries. " – Pastor Dick Landry "This is truly a timely and wonderful book that all Americans should read and reflect on. In many ways, American culture is considered the most indulgent in the world, and this book provides us with a way to understand the impact of spoiling on our children, our society, and our planet. It is based on thorough research and is highly creative. The authors offer a guilt-free/condemnation-free strategy to raise our children in a more balanced and loving way. Highly recommended!" – Dr. Rick Inglehart "By applying what you learn in this book, you will give your children the skills to succeed, free them from the burden of unintentional spoiling that has accompanied them throughout their growth, and gain clarity on why you once felt unhappy." – Dr. Joan K. Comery "Through this book, the authors have given families a wonderful and easy-to-understand gift! In the past few months, we have used the simple yet insightful methods summarized in the book, and our family life has improved! In the past, our 3-year-old and 5-year-old daughters dominated, but now they are important parts of a well-balanced family, beginning to understand the connection between choices and consequences. They are happier, and so are we as parents." – Kelly H. Donason, Corporate Manager, a father who once spoiled his children "For all those working in the mental health field, this book is a valuable resource we have long been anticipating. It provides crucial insights and information on the causes and effects that need to be explored in family education methodologies." – Pandora Lee Basfield, LICSW "Finally, the issue of parental spoiling of children is getting the attention it deserves. This book should be a must-read for every parent." – Dr. Thomas Gordon "All parents share the same desire—to give their children the best. While the desire to improve their children's quality of life is good, the love we heap on them often exceeds their needs or capacity. Once we cross this line, we fall into the trap of spoiling. In this book, family education experts Dr. Jeanne A. Ellsley Clark, Dr. Connie Dawson, and Dr. David Bradhauphett first explain to readers how excessive giving, over-caring, and being too lenient can hinder children from learning many important life skills, which will directly affect whether they are happy and healthy as adults. The wise advice, vivid real-life stories, and effective strategies in this book will guide readers on how to avoid or correct the harm caused by spoiling. How can you tell if you are spoiling your children? How can you change your behavior? How can you help your children understand what 'enough' means? How can you establish strict discipline and rules? How can you guide your children to develop responsibility and independence? What should you do when friends or family members spoil their children? If you were spoiled as a child, how can you break this cycle? Parents spoil their children out of good intentions, in fact, this feeling often stems from their deep love for their children. This book will help readers recognize their spoiling behaviors and guide them on how to educate their children in an effective and loving way, enabling them to have a happy and successful future."