Wisdom in Conduct, Skill in Dealing: 66 Unforgettable Principles of Chinese Etiquette and Conduct

Author: Han Shi
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Publish Date: 2006-01-01
Features: This book does not discuss moral issues or philosophical questions. We explore a very common social problem—the wisdom and skills for survival, development, and success in social life. More specifically, it addresses the cunning and strategies a person uses in dealing with others, handling affairs, speaking, and navigating social interactions. Since ancient times, strategies have been called tricks and cunning when used by petty people, while they are called wise plans and stratagems when used by noble individuals. Everyone has strategies, and everyone uses them. However, some use them subtly, flawlessly, and unpredictably, manipulating opponents with ease, resolving conflicts, dilemmas, and crises effortlessly, and are praised as outstanding figures and timeless strategists. Others, however, use them in a sly and clumsy manner, leading to failure and chaos, and are condemned as despicable individuals. In reality, whether one uses strategies or succeeds in doing so has nothing to do with morality. Morality only examines the motives and purposes behind using strategies. Strategies are not guilty; strategies have their own logic. Therefore, use your strategies freely. The 21st century is an era where wise people thrive. In a society filled with contradictions, hypocrisy, deceit, and traps, are you going to remain resentful, frustrated, and worried, continuing to be a person without strategies, or will you reflect, introspect, and examine yourself, optimistically accept reality, and strive to understand the "way," becoming a person who uses strategies? The choice is yours. We will repeat one more time: strategies have nothing to do with morality.