Patient's question:
Six months after giving birth, various household chores and my husband not being understanding, with my mother-in-law always siding with her son. There’s nothing going right, and I don’t want to leave my baby with my mother-in-law to find a job. The mother-in-law issue has always been a thorn in my heart. I can’t let her leave, after all, this is a house he bought with his money, and I have no right to say anything. I always feel like an outsider at home. My husband doesn’t play any role in resolving the mother-in-law issue. I’ve felt increasingly paranoid over these six months, always questioning myself about incurable diseases. I’m deeply frightened and worried. For example, HIV (because a former client forced me into another sexual encounter after I left work, and I felt heartbroken and guilty. Threatened and intimidated, I felt like a puppet and decided to escape without reporting it. A month later, I had another encounter with my husband and became pregnant). During the pregnancy, I was constantly worried about whether the baby was my husband’s or if the other person had a disease, which troubled me for a long time. Only after secretly taking a test in the later stages of pregnancy did I finally ease up. Later, after giving birth, I started worrying again about whether I might have contagious diseases, and the fear and anxiety returned. I’m afraid of harming the baby. Recently, I’ve read many articles about HIV, and my heart aches more and more. I want to cry but can’t let anyone know. I feel like I’m crazy—smiling and playing around during the day, but secretly grieving at night. Almost every day, I argue with my husband, either about the child or his gaming. Neither of us concedes. My insomnia has also worsened at night. I wanted to have sex with my husband and told him that arguing with him every day made him lose his passion, but he rejected me, giving several reasons. What should I do?Doctor's answer:
In this situation, it is recommended that you first resolve your emotional blocks, let go of the previous psychological pressure, and always maintain emotional stability. In your daily life, try to focus on the positive aspects of things, engage in activities that make you feel relaxed and happy, organize more group sports, and communicate more with others. Don't suppress yourself too much. You can take the opportunity to have a calm and peaceful conversation with your husband, striving to resolve family issues and mother-in-law/daughter-in-law conflicts in a more harmonious manner. Additionally, you can cultivate many positive hobbies and reimmerse yourself in a training environment to enrich yourself and alleviate your stress. If you find it difficult to regulate yourself, you can seek the help of a psychologist for systematic psychological counseling to prevent the problem from escalating severely.