How to Speak to Move People: 35 Strategies for Smart Communication

Author: Keer
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Publish Date: 2005-09-01
Features: When you are intimately close to someone, you feel that there is such consistency and harmony between you, that you share the same views on things. This creates an atmosphere of intimacy and unity, which helps to build friendships, foster cooperation and teamwork, and is conducive to achieving goals. Harmony refers to the actions we take, either intentionally or unintentionally, that reflect our compatibility. People do not consciously discover whether they are harmonious with each other; this realization is subconscious. Each person subconsciously thinks, "This person is very similar to me in many ways," and therefore feels like a good match, further strengthening the level of harmony between them.
Matching When two people or a group of people get along well, you will notice that their use of body language is very frequent, and one person's body language is a reaction to the other's. For example, their postures are very similar, leaning on the chair at the same angle, with legs wrapped in the same way. Their movements are also very consistent. For instance, when one person stands up, the other follows; when one goes to get a drink, the other goes with them; they sway their legs in the same way, without following the rhythm of the music. If you observe more carefully, you will find even more subtle things in these pairs of people. For example, they breathe in and out at the same rhythm, speak at the same volume, pitch, and intervals, and if you can hear their conversation, you will also find that they express things with the same intensity and gestures.
Building Harmonious Relationships Through "Consistency" With the people we like, over time, harmonious relationships naturally develop. We trust and trust them, we enjoy being with them, and we communicate with them easily. By consciously maintaining consistency in our words and actions with others, we can accelerate this process, creating a smoother bond in communication and establishing a cooperative and sincere relationship. You may be consistent with others in many things. For example: personal beliefs, personal history, vocabulary, style of dress, body language, breathing, and so on. You can list many more.
Body Language You may be consistent with someone in your body language, whether it's the upper part of the body, the lower part, or the height of the head and shoulders. You may be consistent with others in these aspects, perhaps partially.
Voice You may be harmonious with their voice, such as volume, pronunciation, tone, speed, rhythm, pauses, etc. You may also have the same rhythm as those who breathe quickly or those who prefer deep or shallow breathing. You may also be the same in terms of expression, language style, word choice, and sentence structure.
Mirror Image, Reverse Reflection You may have played the game of mirror image, reverse reflection. If you see your reflection in the mirror with the right leg crossed over the left, you will subconsciously cross your left leg over your right; if your reflection in the mirror is wiping the right arm with the left hand, you will also subconsciously wipe the left arm with the right hand. You may be able to match the gestures and movement postures of your reflection in the mirror