To be a mother who doesn't scold her children

Author: Xi Xin
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Publish Date: 2005-01-01
Features: ·280 sentences on right and wrong parent-child language communication ·→Things parents absolutely must not say←→Things parents should often say←→Things parents should say this way← Recommended by Lu Shizhen, Vice President of the China Youth Research Association! Praise a child for just one minute, but the pleasant feelings it brings can last a lifetime for the child. — Sun Yunxiao, Researcher at the China Youth Research Center. A parent's words can turn a child's misfortune into happiness. — Doko Kyoichi, Famous Japanese Psychologist and Educator. Education begins at the mother's knee. Every word a child hears influences the formation of their character. — Balu H, British Educator. Mothers compare their children with others out of a desire to "motivate" them and "do what's best for them," but please don't think this is a wise approach, as it only harms their self-esteem. — Kimie Urasawa, Researcher at the Tokyo Psychological Education Research Institute. Yamazaki Masao ·Things parents absolutely must not say· Get out! I wish I didn't have a son like you! What do children understand? Go play! If you cry again, Mom won't love you anymore. Stop talking! ·Things parents should often say· I love you, child. Can you get me the newspaper, please? Thank you, child! Play freely, don't worry about getting your clothes dirty. You did a great job. Mom should learn from you. ·Things parents should say this way· You shouldn't say: "Why is the sun green and the sky red? It's all wrong!" You should say: "This is very creative. Tell me why you painted it this way, okay?" Napoleon once asked Madame de Gontaut: "Traditional education systems seem to have no redeeming qualities. What do we need to make people well-educated?" "Mothers!" replied Madame de Gontaut. Yes, in a child's education, mothers play an irreplaceable role. "A child cannot be disciplined without punishment." Traditional Chinese family education has long held this view. Now parents no longer resort to physical punishment, but the "physical force" of words has not disappeared. Simply being tolerant and loving toward children is not enough to educate them well. Not hitting or scolding children is just a basic principle. Beyond that, parents must also know how to communicate effectively with their children, understand which words should not be said, which must be said, and which can be phrased differently. Many mothers still scold their children at the slightest opportunity, thinking this is the only way to make them obey. In reality, this is a distorted form of education. Parents educate children from their own perspective, speaking words they shouldn't, completely disregarding the child's feelings, while ignoring the words they should often say. Good children are not scolded into existence. Modern parents should learn not to scold their children. Tianjin Education Press has recently published the book How to Be a Non-Scolding Mother, which collects almost all possible types of language used in modern family education. It is divided into three parts: Things parents absolutely must not say, Things parents should often say, and Things parents should say this way, analyzing them one by one and providing parents with practical and effective educational methods. The book avoids empty theories and focuses on practical, real-life examples, presenting valuable concepts and educational approaches to parents. Using correct and incorrect example sentences as the framework, it "guides you by the hand" in learning how to communicate with children. Parents educate their children with the hope of their children's success, so naturally, words that could harm them should not be said. On the other hand, words that have a positive impact must be said, and some words can be phrased differently. The goal is to avoid scolding children as much as possible. A parent's words can influence a child's entire life. How to Be a Non-Scolding Mother is the perfect illustration of this saying.