Determined to be a bad woman

Author: Lavender
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Publish Date: 2005-04-01
Features: Make "bad" every day, wish come true. Beauty, love, money, happiness, sense of achievement. Isn’t this what most women want? But when we examine ourselves and our close friends around us, we can’t help but notice: Despite the specific and thorough efforts we invest, the environment never lets us have our way. Instead, those who are smooth-tongued, manipulative, alluring yet repulsive, and tough and impetuous always get what they want. Are you angry? Are you resentful? Are you unbalanced? Many successful people tell us: True success has no shortcuts. But if you want to be both successful and happy, both successful and loved by everyone, and both successful without aging quickly, there’s no more precise or effective path than to be "bad." Being "bad" doesn’t mean imitating others’ cruelty. Good women usually don’t resort to violence against violence. But if your "goodness" leaves you scarred, do you still need to keep playing this role? Do you still need to be stubbornly devoted? Only by determinedly becoming a "bad" woman can you protect and empower yourself.
What kind of woman is a "bad" woman?
First, enough calmness. Calm to the point that no matter what environment she’s in, she never forgets her goals and desires. Even if the path to her goals is winding, the results cannot be bizarre—she wants it. Because of her calmness, she is not swayed by others' emotions or opinions; because of her calmness, she is gentle yet appropriate.
Second, understand yourself, be loyal to yourself. She knows her weaknesses and strengths like the back of her hand and will never fight a losing battle. She even turns her flaws into her own unique traits; as for her innate or acquired advantages, she brings them to full play, asking only if they are effective, regardless of traditional virtues like the "Four Dimensions of Virtue" or the "Three Submissions and Four Virtues." She is extremely clear about her own desires. She doesn’t seek others' understanding or need to persuade them, because their approval or disapproval holds no weight for her. When her goals are achieved, she feels only happiness and a sense of accomplishment. Anyone who tries to stop her, talk too much, or impose guilt will only earn a sneer and a shrug.
Third, lacks motherhood and sympathy. She takes full responsibility for her life, dedicating all her time and money to building it. She won’t sacrifice herself because she’s the eldest in the family, nor will she take on her colleagues' messes. Nor will she "serve" her partner out of the greatness of love—she will only offer small favors within her means. She’s not a cold-blooded animal, but past painful experiences have shown that constant giving doesn’t earn others' respect. Therefore, she completely embraces her human side, and others will finally understand and value her needs.
Fourth, ambition. I want it. I want to win. I want to win gloriously. Since it’s clear, there are no "buts."
Fifth, practice "bad" every day. Practice, practice, and practice some more. It’s that simple.