VIOLENT ACCESS

Author: Li He'ni
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Publish Date: 2001-08-01
Features: A middle school student who once hated school and found excuses to skip classes, a "problematic" girl who had early romantic relationships—now she cries out, "Children are patients, but parents need treatment." This is Li He'ni, the author of The Sky of Bad Kids. Under the night light, I read letters from children, feeling how helpless and innocent they are, like injured little birds with blood dripping from their feathers. My heart aches. Children have the pains and confusions of growing up, and in life and studies, there are problems they cannot face or solve on their own. Whether they are seen as good or bad by their parents and teachers, if you can enter their hearts, understand the helpless lives they are living right now; if you can know their true thoughts, their love and hate, their hopes and confusion; if you are willing to give them some time and love, if you can sit across from them as their friends, truly looking at their smiles and tears in their eyes, you will love them. You will feel from the bottom of your heart that every child is an angel. Even children whose hearts have lost all sunshine are lovable and respectable. Is it easy for a child to grow up? If we can give children confidence with patience instead of demanding our own wishes, making them lost; if we can cultivate children's wisdom and strength with love instead of restricting them with scolding, making them resent and break free; if we can share our experiences with children, guiding and inspiring them instead of forcing them to follow our own standards—would we still complain about how worried we are about today's children?
About Violent Visits: This is a white paper on school violence. The author shows enough sympathy and understanding toward both the bullies and the victims. Each interviewee has a unique case and text, and their growth, living environment, psychological background, and even their patterns of thinking and behavior are revealed in each cruel, shocking, yet thought-provoking story. Li He'ni became a friend to many parents and children after writing Listening to the Storm Within a Child. She believes, "Every child is an angel of this world." There are no inherently bad children; only parents who don’t understand children or education. Whether they realize it or not, a child’s way of thinking about life, the world, success, and failure is inevitably a reflection of their parents’ worldview and philosophy of life, an embodiment of their parenting style. Therefore, if a child behaves badly, the problem lies with the parents, who need to change and improve. Li He'ni often feels that children are full of hope, but their parents are beyond saving. As a result, the possibility of changing a child toward a positive direction becomes less likely. She has compiled her years of experience helping children and parents into a parenting guidance series: Embracing Angels—Children’s Secret Correspondence, You Change, You’re Good—Youth Psychological Training Handbook, Hallucination Investigation—A Girl’s Story of Auditory and Visual Hallucinations, and Violent Visits—Records and Strategies for School Psychological Harm.