He needs she wants

Author: Xiao Weller
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Features: How to Create a Happy Marriage
While eating and sex are natural instincts, most people end up suffering from health issues due to poor eating habits, and the emotional struggles in relationships often bring more pain than joy. According to surveys, only one out of five marriages is truly happy and fulfilling, while the other four linger in conflicts or indifference. The right understanding can lead to a healthy lifestyle and the creation of a happy marriage. Even enemies can transform into loving partners, which is Dr. Weller's experience. At the age of 55, Dr. Weller has been a marriage counselor for his friends since he was 19. Although many of his clients have not succeeded in their marriages, it has also marked the beginning of his lifelong quest for the answer to happy marriages. He is the author of several marriage counseling books, such as What He Needs and What She Wants (now in English, with over 500,000 copies sold and translated into German and French). He has also served as the director of thirty-two marriage counseling clinics in Minnesota. He is confident that he can save nineteen out of every twenty troubled marriages.
In his view, successful marriages have two prerequisites: meeting each other's needs and avoiding harm to the other. However, this is a profound art. During the dating phase, both partners strive to please each other, prioritizing the happiness of the other. But once married, after long cohabitation, people gradually begin to prioritize their own happiness, and intimacy naturally fades. If both parties focus solely on themselves and neglect each other's needs over time, it often leads to seeking fulfillment outside the marriage—this is why extramarital affairs occur.