Open the door to student wisdom

Author: Yan Xingfang
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: Don't let your child lose at the starting line, and don't let them lose at the finish line! This book, through numerous examples, deeply analyzes the various mistaken concepts and approaches of parents, teachers, and even students themselves under the wrong standards and guiding principles of success. It warns everyone that only three out of a thousand are intellectually gifted, and not everyone who wishes for their child to excel will achieve it. Imagine, with more and more young people unwilling to marry, unwilling to have children even when married, requiring property agreements before marriage, and explicitly stating their unwillingness to live with the elderly. For them, whether their family thrives is simply not within their considerations. They pursue more independence, personal development, future growth opportunities, and their own interests. Therefore, in the long journey of life, each person's direction will be different, and it should be different. Even if they are moving in the same direction, there are countless examples throughout history and across cultures of those who rose later. The key is to lay a solid foundation from a young age, strengthen qualities, learn how to be a person and how to do things, and focus on improving sustainable development capabilities. On the other hand, if one only focuses on a child's exam scores or rankings, or even endlessly dwells on "past issues," it is simply too short-sighted. If they start half a beat late or stumble midway, shouldn't they be given more encouragement and cheers, with a shout of "Come on!"? Losing at the starting line doesn't mean they will never recover; otherwise, the rules of the game would need to be changed—don't look at who reaches the finish line first, but who leaves the starting point first! Besides, how many in the long race of life aren't just participating for the sake of it? In conclusion, if families and schools truly want what's best for their children, they should have such a mindset and quality: less eagerness for quick results, more unexpected success; less forcing growth, more guiding with the flow; less forcing what's beyond someone's ability, more putting oneself in another's shoes. If this is the case, everyone will live happier and more successful lives.