Patient's question:
My child is in his freshman year of high school. He wants to drop out because he feels he can't keep up with the studies. I've tried to persuade him for a long time, but it hasn't been effective. What should I do?What kind of assistance is needed: My son is going through a rebellious phase, his grades are poor, and he feels he can't keep up with the practice anymore, wanting to give up. As a mother, what should I...
Doctor's answer:
For each child, in this very difficult time, choosing to take a leave of absence from school requires considerable courage. Therefore, instead of rushing to contact them, I first calmed myself down and carefully considered how I should proceed.First: Conduct thorough investigations, understand the situation from their past teachers and classmates, and then communicate with their parents. Gain a comprehensive understanding to be fully prepared.
Second: Focus on individual priorities and proceed step by step. Based on the first step, I realized that the two children’s situations were quite different, so I adopted different approaches. For Siqi, the main issue was personal-related, so I first communicated with the parents to form an ideological training alliance. Then, I individually explored and implemented ideological exchanges with her, helping her ease her concerns and revitalize her spirit. As for You Junjian, the training was much more challenging because the parents were not very supportive. I mobilized all available resources, inviting highly aware elders and respected local figures, even village cadres, to persuade them with emotion and reason, working together to carry out mobilization and training.
Third: Strengthen class atmosphere planning to enhance cohesion and appeal. Actively promote campaigns like "Unity and Friendship, Show Kindness," resolving many practical issues. In summary, show academic care, emotional support, and communication, making students feel that the class is like a family.
Afterward, no more students considered taking a leave of absence. The students smoothly completed their final middle school years, Siqi was admitted to high school as desired, and You Junjian was enrolled in a vocational high school, both starting their new life paths.
Yes, in life, sometimes the key steps are just a few. When our children are in doubt about the direction of their life’s journey, we must give them more attention and care, never abandoning or giving up, doing what we should to build a bright future for them. Wishing your family happiness!