World's most charming wife

Author: Dale Carnegie
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: Part of the "Lost Horizon" series. The best gift for women, Dale Carnegie's classic work that has empowered millions of women to achieve happiness. This renowned classic has profoundly influenced Western women! It has changed countless women, helping them to live a life they are satisfied with! A must-read for every woman, enhancing your charm index and taking you into an emotional world filled with joy and love, guiding millions of women to a better life. Many years ago in New York City, there were two young people living in a cheap boarding house. One was Dale Carnegie, a dreamer from the corn-growing region of Missouri in his youth; the other was Whitney, from the countryside of Massachusetts. Dale once told me that Whitney, like many rural children, came from poverty, but what set him apart was his firm belief that he would become the owner of a large company. In this city, Whitney worked as a retail clerk in a large food chain. To quickly familiarize himself with the business, he helped out in the wholesale department during lunch breaks. Although this didn’t earn him extra gratitude or income, when a better position became available, his boss immediately thought of Whitney to take on the role. Day by day, Whitney progressed from a retail clerk to a salesperson, then to a department manager, and eventually to a regional manager. Throughout this journey, disappointments and setbacks were inevitable. After working for many years, he felt that he had no future prospects, as the company was filled with relatives of the CEO, and the hope of further promotion seemed slim. Soon after, he switched to another company, where he discovered that sufficient experience was required for advancement. This made him realize that he would never become a senior executive involved in decision-making. However, he never forgot his goal and ultimately achieved it. Later, he became the president of an orange packaging company and a dairy company. "One day, I will become the owner of a large company," Whitney said to his roommate in the unpleasant apartment. This was not daydreaming but rather setting a firm belief for himself, clarifying the direction of his efforts, and guiding all his actions in life. Why was Whitney able to move step by step toward success, while many others fell into the vortex of failure? Of course, he worked hard—but so did others. Maybe it was because of his education? But he only studied on his own during his spare time, so that wasn’t the issue. The fundamental reason was that he was extremely clear about his goals. Everything he did—voluntary overtime, changing jobs, learning new skills at work—all served one purpose. Successors avoid aimlessness. Those who are far from success often find jobs and marry blindly, even though they desperately want to change their situation, but their goals in life are very vague. At the Winston Hotel in New York City, Ann Hoyt founded the "Career Counseling Office," specifically for those who were dissatisfied with their jobs, offering them advice. For several afternoons, I discussed unemployment with Miss Hoyt. She said that many of the people who came for counseling were mainly unclear about what they wanted. Therefore, her first task was to help them set goals. A wife can do no more than help her husband find what he most desires in life, and then work together to achieve these ideals. Authors of "Marriage Guide," Somer and Isakson, argue that a happy marriage cannot be without shared ideals, and what the ideal is doesn’t matter—whether it’s a new house or a global trip—the key is to have a shared ideal. They believe that having confidence in the future and striving to achieve goals is the most important thing, and it is wonderful and meaningful to envision a beautiful future; at the same time, in the process of achieving it, one can experience the different feelings of victory and disappointment, success and failure. The success of William Gorgon and his wife validates this principle. Under William Gorgon’s guidance, the oil company he founded gradually gained recognition, and these achievements were mainly due to William Gorgon’s efforts. Although he was still under 50, he earned staggering profits from the oil business. Moreover, William Gorgon and his wife, Marylee, had many admirable accomplishments: six healthy and beautiful children, a wealthy and comfortable home, and a constantly growing and expanding business. I have known William Gorgon for a long time, so I asked him what he thought was the greatest factor in success. His answer was: long-term planning and consistent action that aligns with those plans.