Patient's question:
How should one have sex for the first time? What if she gets hurt?Doctor's answer:
The first sexual experience for both partners is often accompanied by a sense of longing and mystery. For a virgin, in addition to this, there may be many psychological conflicts. She knows that after sexual intercourse, she will no longer be a virgin, but she also has a lingering attachment to the past. She deeply loves her partner or husband, but she is also afraid of completely giving herself to him. The male must understand these delicate psychological states of the female and be able to provide care and affection through words and actions. Only by properly handling these issues can the first sexual experience be made smoother and more pleasant. It is important to avoid haste and a self-centered approach that only seeks personal satisfaction. It is especially important to note that sexual harmony depends on the joint effort of both partners. Selfishness in thought and roughness in action can cause the other to feel repulsed and resentful. The female should also try to relax and cooperate to fully enjoy the pleasure of sex. The male should restrain his sexual impulses and use gentle caresses to stimulate the female's desire. Generally, the female's sexual desire emerges more slowly than the male's, so it is more appropriate to engage in sexual intercourse only when both are mentally and physically prepared. Some females have a more resilient, thick, and inelastic hymen with a tight hymen opening or a narrower vagina, making penetration difficult. In such cases, a gradual and gentle insertion can be used to slowly expand the hymen in stages over several days to complete the sexual act. If bleeding occurs due to the tearing of the hymen during the first sexual experience, use a sterile tissue or tampon to gently press the wound to stop the bleeding. Pay attention to hygiene in the external genital area, and do not engage in sexual intercourse for 3-5 days to avoid increasing pain and the risk of bacterial infection. After sexual intercourse, the male often immediately turns over to sleep due to fatigue, while the female's sexual excitement gradually subsides, and some may even experience multiple climaxes. Therefore, the male should consider the female's slower rate of excitement decline and continue to provide sweet caresses and care, rather than just falling asleep due to fatigue. A harmonious and coordinated first night of sexual life will leave both partners with endless warmth and joy, making married life more fulfilling and happy.