Patient's question:
A 4-year-old boy, who never communicates, hesitates to speak up and has a stubborn personality. The more you try to talk to him, the less he opens up. It's embarrassing to take him out because he doesn't respond to questions. He either hugs my legs or refuses to speak at all. If he does speak, he gets angry and stops talking. The child's kindergarten is very small, and he has few classmates. It's likely due to family factors. The child is mostly taken care of by his grandmother, who spoils him quite a bit. Recently, I plan to take him out myself except on Mondays and Tuesdays when I have things to do. I've bought books on logical thinking to teach him, but he doesn't like to talk. What can I do about that?Doctor's answer:
From your description, it can be felt that you are deeply concerned and anxious about your child's current situation. Your child's personality traits and interpersonal interaction patterns are somewhat related to intergenerational inheritance, but a larger part of the reason is based on post-natal nurturing and guidance. When children are young, they are more focused on creating a sense of security and comfortable interpersonal relationships with important family members. They will practice more of the expressive patterns of their family members. At this time, don't rush to give the child too much advice. You can give the child more patience, spend more time with the child, and provide the child with enough security, encouragement, and motivation. When young children receive enough encouragement from their family members, they will also have more natural expressions in their interactions with the outside world.