Patient's question:
The child is 14 years old. They usually take 3 to 4 minutes to wash their face (this is unknown on snowy days), spend 30 to 40 minutes in the bathroom or taking a bath, and when they disagree with their parents, they say, "Shut up," which is impolite to their parents. Sometimes they shout loudly at their parents. At school, they get along well with classmates. During regular exams, they perform poorly, and when they come home, they cry and roll on the floor, crying for two to three hours. The other day, they argued with their father and cried all night, wanting to run away from home. In the past two days, they have been in a low mood, uninterested in anything, not doing homework, and not watching TV. After two arguments with their father, they said they wanted to die.Doctor's answer:
I'm glad to help you clarify this. First, when a child shows irritability, anger, or a bad temper, the parent should first remain calm and try to understand why the child is angry and what they want. When the child offers their own suggestions, the parent can engage in patient communication with them, which can temporarily alleviate the child's irritability and anger. Second, identify the cause. No child becomes irritable or angry for no reason. Many children are influenced by their parents' tempers, such as observing how parents handle situations or being led by example. Many children initially just want to be spoiled, but if parents constantly scold or shout at them, over time, the child may also develop a bad temper.