Patient's question:
My child is in his freshman year of high school and wants to drop out because he feels he can't keep up with the studies. I've tried to persuade him for a long time, but it hasn't been effective. What should I do?What kind of assistance is needed: My son is going through a rebellious phase, his grades are poor, and he feels he can't handle the practice anymore, wanting to give up. As a mother, what should I...
Doctor's answer:
For a child, in this very difficult time, choosing to take a leave of absence from school requires quite a bit of courage. Therefore, I didn't rush to contact them but first calmed myself down and carefully considered how to proceed.First: Conduct thorough research, understand the situation from their past teachers and classmates, and then communicate with their parents. Get a comprehensive overview and be fully informed.
Second: Focus on individual priorities and progress step by step. Based on the first step, I realized that the two children's situations were quite different, so I adopted different approaches. For Siqi, the main issues were personal, so I first communicated with the parents and formed an ideological training alliance. Then, I engaged in a one-on-one discussion to help her exchange thoughts, ease her concerns, and boost her morale. As for You Junjian, the training was much more challenging because the parents were not very supportive. I mobilized all available resources, inviting highly aware elders and respected local figures, even village cadres, to persuade them with both emotion and reason, working together to conduct the training.
Third: Strengthen class atmosphere planning to enhance cohesion and attractiveness. Actively promote campaigns like "Unity and Friendship, Show Love," resolving many practical issues. In summary, show academic care, emotional support, and communication, making students feel that the class is like a home.
After that, no more students considered taking a leave of absence. The students smoothly completed their final middle school years, Siqi was admitted to high school as desired, and You Junjian was accepted into a vocational high school, already embarking on their new life paths.
Yes, in life, sometimes the key steps are just a few. When our children are struggling to set the direction of their life's ship, we must give them more attention and care, never abandoning or giving up, doing what we should to build a bright future for them. Wishing your family happiness!