World's most charming wife

Author: Dale Carnegie
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Publish Date: 2004-01-01
Features: A collection of the "Lozenge Series." The best gift for women, Dale Carnegie's classic work that has empowered millions of women to achieve happiness. This renowned classic has profoundly influenced Western women! It has changed countless women, helping them to build fulfilling lives! A must-read for every woman, enhancing your charm index and guiding you into a world brimming with joy and love, a charming guide to a beautiful life for millions of women.
Many years ago in New York City, there were two young people living in a cheap boarding house. One was Dale Carnegie, a young dreamer from the corn-growing region of Missouri, and the other was Whitney, from the countryside of Massachusetts. Dale once told me that Whitney, like many rural children, came from poverty, but what set him apart was his unwavering belief that he would become the owner of a large company.
In this city, Whitney worked as a retail clerk in a large food chain. To quickly familiarize himself with the business, he helped out in the wholesale department during lunch breaks. Although no one would thank him for this, nor would he earn extra income, when a better position became available, his boss immediately thought of Whitney. Over time, Whitney progressed from a retail clerk to a salesperson, then to a department manager, and eventually to a regional manager.
Throughout this journey, disappointments and setbacks were inevitable. After working for many years, he felt he had no future in the company because there were too many relatives of the CEO, and the prospects for further promotion were slim. Soon after, he switched to another company, where he discovered that sufficient experience was required for advancement. This made him realize that he would never become a senior executive involved in decision-making. Yet, he never forgot his goal and ultimately achieved it. Later, he became the president of an orange packaging company and a blue moon dairy company.
"I will one day become the owner of a large company," Whitney said to his roommate in the unpleasant apartment. This was not daydreaming but rather establishing a firm belief in himself, clarifying his direction, and guiding all his actions in life.
Why was Whitney able to move step by step toward success, while many others fell into the vortex of failure? Of course, he worked hard—so did others. Maybe it was because of his education? But he only studied on his own time, so that wasn’t the issue. The fundamental reason was that he was extremely clear about his goals. Everything he did—voluntary overtime, changing jobs, learning new skills at work—all served one purpose.
Successors must avoid aimlessness. Those who are far from success often find jobs and marry without much thought, even though they desperately want to change their circumstances, their goals remain vague.
At the Winston Hotel in New York City, Ann Hoyt founded the "Career Counseling Office," specifically for those who were dissatisfied with their jobs, offering them guidance. I spent several afternoons discussing unemployment with Miss Hoyt. She said that many people who came for counseling were unsure of what they wanted. Therefore, her first step was to help them set goals.
A wife can do no better than to help her husband identify what he truly desires in life, and then work together to achieve these dreams. The authors of Marriage Guide, Семен and Исеклин, argue that a happy marriage cannot do without shared ideals, and what those ideals are doesn’t matter—whether it’s a new house or a trip around the world—the key is to have a shared vision. They believe that having confidence in the future and striving to achieve goals is the most important thing, and that envisioning a beautiful future is a wonderful and meaningful pursuit; at the same time, the process of achieving it allows one to experience the different feelings of victory and disappointment, success and failure.
The success of William Gorgon and his wife validates this principle. Under William Gorgon’s guidance, the oil company he founded gradually gained recognition, and these achievements were largely due to his efforts. Although he was still under 50, he earned staggering profits from the oil business. Moreover, William Gorgon and his wife, Marylee, had many admirable accomplishments: six healthy and beautiful children, a wealthy and comfortable home, and a constantly growing and expanding business.
I have known William Gorgon for a long time, so I asked him what he believed was the greatest factor in success. His answer was: long-term planning and consistent action aligned with those plans.